Anticipate Regression and Get Help

Ten steps to get help and survive the worst days/weeks/months/years of autistic perimenopause

I am experiencing another regression in my functioning and capacity. This time I am also enduring chronic pain which is new, but my mood has greatly improved and I’m coping well.

I’m asking for help as and when needed because otherwise, what? My kids will suffer and everything will fall to pieces.

Well, fuck this shit.

Aotearoa New Zealand now has no more oestrogen patches being supplied for the foreseeable future. I don’t know for sure, but I can only assume I’ll run out imminently. I don’t know if I can get an alternative such as gel. I can’t get an appointment with my doctor to discuss it for three more weeks.

My doctor is working hard advocating for people who need oestrogen patches. People like myself and perhaps you, who rely on this treatment to stay alive.

There is still no solution.

I too am working hard advocating, whilst asking for help from others as and when needed because otherwise, what? My kids will suffer and everything will fall to pieces.

Fuck this shit.

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Here is my ten step guide to asking for support to aid your survival through autistic perimenopausal regressions:

1. Recognise that you need support from others to complete essential tasks.

2. Recognise that you deserve support from others.

3. Tolerate the shame of needing to ask for support.

4. Ask others for support.

5. Explicitly direct others on how best to support you with essential tasks.

6. Appreciate the relief of receiving support.

7. Thank others for supporting you.

8. Know that your regressions are temporary and cyclical.

9. Recognise that - right now - you may need regular ongoing support to complete essential tasks.

10. Repeat from step 1.